by Pamela Madsen in Shameless Woman
I have been working with a major news outlet on the issue of female sexual desire. The talking heads call this "low sexual libido" - and we have been trying to get women to step forward and talk about it. No one wants to. Not a big surprise - would you want to step forward as a person with "low sexual libido"? Geez with the men they had to switch out erectile dysfunction with "ED".
I would rather call it "Desire Untapped". Now - that is language I can wrap my libido around - because that was what I once was. A woman who didn't understand my own sexual desire. I knew that I had it - but it felt more like a simmering pot - close to boil - but not quite. And I wanted to boil - as so many of us do. I wanted to feel like those women look in "Sex in The City" - but I wasn't them. I would never be them - I was a mid life Riverdale housewife - and fertility advocate. I had to find my own way - and I did. But along the way - I learned a lot about how women tick.
