Emotional Affairs in Midlife What is emotional infidelity and how you can stop it.

BY: CHERIE BURBACH

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You can recover from emotional cheating, but you need to take steps to change your behavior.

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Has your marriage been affected by an emotional affair? Emotional affairs have become a more common issue in midlife marriage, especially as couples redefine what infidelity is in their relationship.

Definition of an Emotional Affair in Midlife

Emotional affairs, also called emotional infidelity or cheating, occur when one spouse has a deep attachment to someone else. Physical intimacy does not need to be present in order for an emotional affair to happen, but often this type of cheating does lead to a physical affair.

5 Ways to Stay In Love Forever

Excellent advice for every couple.

by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

1.CHERISH YOUR WIFE. RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND.

The core emotional need of a woman is to be cherished. This is the husband's number one responsibility. That means making her feel loved and appreciated, that she's your number one priority.

Fifty Shades of Grey inspires Brits to watch saucy movies

by Zoe Briggs

The sexy antics of Christian Grey and Ana Steele (jiggle balls anyone?) have encouraged us to get sexy in the bedroom. But it seems it’s not just erotic fiction we’re enjoying as there’s been an increase in saucy movie-watching, too.

Fifty Shades of Grey has not only caused a boost in the bedroom thanks to the steamy relationship of Christian Grey and Ana Steele but now it’s taking over what we watch.

According to new figures released by LoveFilm, viewing of erotic movies have increased by 55% since the phenomenon that is Fifty Shades. It seems couples are looking for new ways to spice up their sex life as some individual movies have seen a 300% increase in views. What a naughty lot you are!
The top five kinky films that have seen an increase in sales are as follows:

Sexting: The new dating norm

by Kayleigh Dray

How often do you send a sexy text? You're not alone! Research has shown that sexting is has become part of our modern dating regimes thanks to the world of instant multimedia communication...

Sending a sexy text may feel pretty risque, but, thanks to new research, it has been proven that sexting is a vital and healthy part of modern dating.

Whether it's sexy photos or oh-so-detailed text messages (Fifty Shades Of Grey, eat your heart out!), sexting is a regular part of modern dating. After all, we've got to evolve our methods to keep up with all the instant multimedias on offer!

If Shared Housework Brings About Divorce, You Need To Pick Better

by Laura Donovan

If you’re a lifelong clean freak like me, you believe that your living space can never remain immaculate for too long — and that you prefer to clean things your way. That could help explain the fact that couples who share housework are more likely to split up, according to new research, and prompt partners to only have one person fulfill such duties.

The research, which was compiled into a study titled “Equality in the Home,” reveals that the divorce rate is higher among couples who divide household chores than among those where the lady takes care of pretty much everything.

Why Childfree Couples Have It All

Laura Carroll

Author and Communications 

Consultant

Keli Goff hits the nail on the head in her post "Why Women Shouldn't Want To Have it All" when she makes the point that for all the solutions Anne-Marie Slaughter lays out as necessary for more women to be able to "have it all," "she completely omits one of the most obvious: the need to change the entire conversation about how women define success, from a one-size fits all model that includes marriage, motherhood and career into a find-what-works-for-you model."

Why is parenthood always in the work-life equation? Because we assume that at one point or another, our personal lives will involve raising children. And we make this assumption because for generations, we've been taught to believe that parenthood is the ultimate path to fulfillment in life. We may have successful careers and do many other things in life, but becoming a mother and father is what's going to make life truly worthwhile.

The key phrase here is what we "have been taught to believe" about parenthood. To understand how we've come to believe what we do about parenthood we have to go back in time. Throughout history, valuing fertility was necessary to ensure survival. Leaders encouraged, even mandated population growth to offset population losses due to infant mortality, war and disease. The larger a society's population, the more it could expand and gain power. 

Written in Ink

I said, "I will never break My covenant with you." JUDGES 2:1

In the summer of 1997, I was sitting at my computer writing an article, praying and asking myself, How can we rebuild the family in America? I wasn't just pondering this because it was my job to do so or because I had spent my entire adult life focused on this calling and endeavor. More importantly and specifically, I was thinking about my oldest daughter's wedding, which at the time was just a few days away. Was there something I could say or do that would help Ashley and Michael begin a marriage that would go the distance?

That's when God brought to mind the concept of covenant, which means literally "to cut." Many scholars believe that in Old Testament days, a covenant between two people was often made by splitting an animal in half, laying the two sides apart from each other on the ground, walking between these bloody pieces and pledging, "May God do the same thing to me if I break my covenant with you" (see Genesis 15). Well, I thought that would make a real mess on the church carpet, but I still wanted to incorporate "covenant" into their wedding ceremony in some visible way.

Praying Together

Acts 1:12–26

They all joined together constantly in prayer.

Acts 1:14

I don’t remember when Dan and I started praying together, but I do recall that our first attempts felt awkward. For a long time we only prayed the Lord’s Prayer out loud together. This was safe because we both knew the words to it.

Over time, and as each of us felt more comfortable being emotionally and spiritually naked with each other, we began to talk out loud to God as if he was the third person in our relationship. Now we try to pray out loud together daily. It’s no longer awkward, and it has promoted spiritual intimacy. That was an unexpected bonus of being married to each other. No one had ever told us we could experience this kind of intimacy in our relationship.

Notes For Sex Over Fifty

The only way to keep up with the latest about having sex post fifty is to constantly stay on the lookout for new information. If you read everything you d about having sex post fifty, it won't take long for you to become an influential authority.


Think about what you've read so far. Does it reinforce what you already know about having sex post fifty? Or was there something completely new? What about the remaining paragraphs?


People have little interest in sex after a certain age.
Actually there is no age limit on sexuality, but for people age 50 and over, sexual satisfaction depends more on the overall quality of the relationship than it does for younger couples. A National Council on Aging survey reports that among people age 60 and over who have regular intercourse, 74 percent of the men and 70 percent of the women find their sex lives more satisfying than when they were in their forties.


Does an aging man loses his ability to get an erection.
Aging itself is not a cause of erectile dysfunction. However, diminishing hormone levels do precipitate some changes. A man may need more physical stimulation to become aroused, and his erection may not be quite as firm as when he was younger -- but sex is no less pleasurable. While a 25-year-old man might be able to get a second erection as quickly as fifteen minutes after an ejaculation, a 50-year-old man might need several hours.

You Make Me Laugh : Putting the Cat Out

A couple is going out for an evening on the town.

When they are almost ready to go, the wife tells her husband not to forget to put out the cat. However, after a Taxi arrives and as they go out the door the cat darts back in the house.

Not wanting the cat shut in the house while they are out the husband goes back in to get the cat as the wife goes and gets in the cab.

The wife not wanting it known that the house will be empty while they are out explains to the cab driver, "He is just going upstairs to say good-bye to mother."

A short time later the husband comes down and gets in the cab. He says, "Sorry it took so long but the stupid old thing was under the bed and I had to poke her with a coat hanger!" 

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